I was pleasantly surprised to have received such positive feedback from several of my (mainly female) friends after my last blog post. Many told me that it was as if I was writing about their experiences and feelings about where they currently find themselves in their own careers.
I believe that many of us find ourselves in similar situations, but very few of us want to talk about them because again, let’s be real here, we are afraid to. Perhaps a lot of it stems from feeling like we are expected to have our s@%t together most of the time (or at least appear to), and putting ourselves in a vulnerable position is not easy.
One of my favorite exercises that came out of the business seminar I attended last month, was defining my “perfect day”. Everyone’s perfect day is undoubtedly different and spending time not only defining it, but wondering about what that day looks like, how it flows, and who is in it was quite enlightening. Gay Hendricks, author of The Big Leap explains that “to wonder about something is to explore with an open mind and open heart.”
I’m sure the depiction of this day will morph to reflect a new ideal of perfection as the years go by, but right now, this is part of what my perfect day includes…
The alarm goes off at 5:30 am and I get out of bed to get in a solid cardio workout in spin class, which (as a newly certified instructor) I teach twice a week. My alarm only goes off this early in the morning now primarily when I have to get to the gym.
After picking up my coffee at my local Coffee Bean store where the barista knows me by name and has my drink practically memorized, I spend some time by myself at a table in the corner and quickly plan out my to-do list for the day. I head back home in time to see my husband off for work and finish feeding the boys their breakfast. We spend the rest of the day listening to music, going for a walk to the park, and engaging in other fun (and probably tiring) activities. I’m always home in time for dinner now, and I get to sit with my husband once the kids go to bed to enjoy a glass of wine and talk about our day.
During naps and after bedtime, I prioritize my time by spending it on working on my event planning business, creating, writing, and focusing on continuing to develop as an entrepreneur.
Yes, by the time my head hits the pillow I am exhausted. However, I go to bed at night knowing that all of that day’s hard work was an investment in what matters most to me. Although it may have been challenging at times, I fall asleep knowing that the way I spent the hours in that day was the way I chose to spend them… and not a minute of it felt like work.
While I am not a spin instructor and not exactly always living my perfect day yet, knowing what that day includes and (most importantly) WHO is in it helps me focus and prioritize my efforts accordingly. I encourage you to do the same!
What does YOUR perfect day look like?